Sexual Assault and Sexual Assault/Misconduct Prevention and Protection Strategies
It is all of our responsibilities to make sure our community is free from sexual assault/misconduct. The following strategies are provided to assist you in avoiding potentially unsafe and dangerous situations.
How to Avoid Committing Sexual assault/misconduct
If you find yourself in the position of being the initiator of sexual behavior, you must show respect to your potential partner and yourself. These suggestions may help you avoid committing and/or being accused of sexual assault/misconduct:
- Clearly communicate your intentions to the other person and give them a chance to clearly
communicate their intentions to you.
- Listen carefully. Take time to hear what the other person has to say. If you feel you are receiving
unclear or conflicting messages from the other person, you should stop, defuse any sexual tension
and communicate better.
- Don’t assume that you have consent to sexual activity just because someone leaves or goes to a
private location with you.
- Understand and respect personal boundaries. Do not pressure a potential partner. If the other person
says “no” to sexual activity, believe them and stop. Don’t make assumptions about consent; about
someone’s sexual availability; about whether they are attracted to you; about how far you can go or
about whether they are physically and/or mentally able to consent. If there are any questions or
ambiguity, then you DO NOT have consent and you should stop and communicate.
- Don’t take advantage of someone’s drunken, drugged, or otherwise incapacitated state.
- Realize that your potential partner could be intimidated by you, or fearful. You may have a power
advantage simply because of your gender, status, or size. Don’t abuse that power.
- Understand that consent to one form of sexual activity does not constitute consent for any other
Silence and passivity cannot be interpreted as an indication of consent. Read the other person carefully, and pay attention to verbal and nonâ€verbal communication and body language. If it is not clear by the other person’s words and/or actions that they are a willing participant in that specific activity, then you need to stop.
Protection Strategies: How to Mitigate Your Risk
It is never your fault if someone takes sexual advantage of you, but there are things you can do to mitigate the risk of someone taking advantage. These strategies are provided with no intention to victimâ€blame and with recognition that only those who commit sexual violence are responsible for such conduct. These suggestions are offered to help you reduce your risk of experiencing sexual violence.
- Trust your instincts. If you feel uncomfortable or unsafe about a person or situation, trust your gut
and remove yourself from the situation as soon as possible.
- Be aware of your alcohol intake and/or other drug use and understand that alcohol and/or other drugs
can impair your judgment and lower your sexual inhibitions. This could make you vulnerable to
someone who views a drunk or high person as a sexual opportunity.
- Don’t leave your drink unattended and don’t accept drinks from someone you don’t know or trust. If
you’ve left your drink alone, just get a new one.
- Know your sexual limits and make them known as early as possible in a potential intimate situation.
- If you do not want to engage in a particular activity, tell the other person “NO” clearly and firmly.
- Try to remove yourself from the physical presence of a sexual aggressor, if you can do so safely. If
someone is nearby, ask for help or, if it is safe to do so, text or call someone.
- Watch out for your friends and ask that they do so for you. A real friend will step in and challenge you
if they see you are in a potentially dangerous situation. Respect them when they do. If a friend seems
"out of it," is too intoxicated, or is acting out of character, get your friend to a safe place
- Don’t go somewhere with someone you don’t know well. If you do leave a party with a new friend, tell
the friends you came with where you are going and when you are coming back. Give the friends you
came with the name and telephone number of the new friend you are leaving with.
- Enter the campus safety department and local police department phone numbers into your mobile
Become an active bystander. What should you do if you witness sexual assault or misconduct?
- Notice the situation. Be aware of your surroundings.
- Interpret the problem. Do I recognize that someone needs help?
- Feel responsible to act. See yourself as being part of the solution to help.
- Know what to do. Educate yourself on what to do.
- Intervene safely. Take action but be sure to keep yourself safe.
How to Intervene safely:
- Tell another person. Being with others is a good idea when a situation looks dangerous.
- Ask a person you are worried about if he/she is okay. Provide options and a listening ear.
- Distract or redirect individuals in unsafe situations.
- Ask the person if he/she wants to leave. Make sure that he/she gets home safely.
- Call the police, 911, Campus Safety, or someone else in authority for help.